Oh you're gay ... you need a hair cut!

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greven wrote: Back when you were a kid, did you run around in skirts? or did you run around in pants? The thing is that the kid in you just did what it wanted and didnt think about all those things that hinders the adult mind.

Huh, I guess I did both. xD I did like dresses enough, so that's comforting.
Thanks~

eSilva wrote: If anything it's made me look more feminine then long hair but quite a few people at work have told me I look more asian now and some even said "You look more like an anime, ya know those japanese cartoons." and these were people in their FORTIES, lol.

That is really funny. xD I love it when older people bring up anime.


And Rei, that comic was AWESOME. Poor hair... xD

lol. It really is funny. I looked at them with awe! But i knew better then to ask them if they watched any frequently. xD

Wouldn't it be awesome if you started having a long in-depth conversation with them about anime? Haha.

Oh geez. I couldn't imagine that!! the only anime I think they could know would be the ones that played in the 80s or something like Lupin the III, candy, Rose of Versailles (which was soooo good). Then again it would be pretty cool too...but still, I dont think I could get over the awe factor. hahaha.

Rose of Versailles? =o What's it about?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rose_of_Versailles

there ya go

While on the subject of not being on the subject.
I figured out I am bi, does that mean I have to start wearing super tight jeans, strangely see through shirts, and get special haircuts like most gay or bi guys have in TV and movies? XD

Sorry for getting off track. lol

And ya know whats the creepiest thing about you asking that? I THOUGHT ABOUT IT TODAY! I was at the mall looking at guy clothes and thought of you, yes YOU. I know "Why would she?" and I don't know why but I thought about it and I was thinking that you're fine the way you are. Unless you WANT the tight pants, strangely see through shirts, and the gay hair cuts xD. You DO however need V-neck shirts. EVERY bi or gay guy I have ever seen or known has worn at least one (joking and only half kidding) lol but then again...straight guys looks good in them too...tho they get mistaken for gay guys...so yeah, V-necks!!

See the thing is, unlike breeders (heteros! lol) its much harder to find other gays when it's not obvious or at least suspicious that they may be "that way" so it's much more difficult to find love. I find that SOME "stereotypical" accessories are helpful in the search for homo love!! So that may be one thing to consider.

I have actually been thinking in the same lanes resently: How do one spot a gay guy.
Sure it is a bit narrowminded but it is a rather real question for me. I mean, I can hardly muster the courage to ask a girl her feelings, how the hell am I going to ask a guy his? I mean that can get twice as akward.
But I never considered the positive points of stereotypes like that, but now that you mention it it does make a lot of sense. But I am NOT! Getting a V-neck XD

Wellll now...

This is a difficult issue. Some of you may have read about the creepy "gay cult" at my old school. My ex was in that group, and so she persuaded me to spend time hanging out with them. Oh god, how scary was that.The whole lot of them were walking sterotypes. Let me break them down into some sub-categories:

1. The Year 10 "Bisexual" Greebo Kid. These were the ones with stripy armwarmers, black skinny jeans and heavy eyeliner. And they all identified as bisexual, before deciding after a couple of weeks that they were gay, then straight, then bi, etc etc ad infinitum. And dont forget the obsession with MCR.

2. The Gayboy. There were 2 or 3 stereotypical feminine gays guys there. They were so fake, and such bitches! Plus one of them would shag anything that stood still long enough, and slept with my ex. All loved Madonna and Britney, and shopping and makeup.

3. The Scene Kid. I'm talking the whole dyed hair, facial piercings, DC's, skinny jeans, baseball caps, childrens backpacks and and rave glasses. Also the most annoying of the bunch, all were shallow and obsessed with being "cool". Music, clothing styles and social areas were picked up and discarded as one thing became "old" and something else became "sick" (that means good.)

4. The Dyke. The most prominent stereotype present, these girls all, without exception, had short hair, wore camo three quarter length trousers or boyfit jeans, baggy t-shirts, checked shirts, rainbows and Converse or DC's. They also all loved The L word, but only Shane because she was "buff", Paramore, Tegan and Sara, and all did exactly the same thing socially. They all went to the same gigs, read the same books, watched the same films, etc etc. By the time I had met all these people, I not only felt incredibly out of place, but also feared for my individuality as I was being persuaded to be Inducted into the CreepyRainbowLoveDykeClub. (they didnt call it that, but it would have been the finishing touch, no doubt)

And all these people seemes to feel it was necessary to declare at least 5 times a day how gay they were. Infuriating.

As for me, I dont really fit into any kind of stereotype. I have short spiky hair, but getting it cut had nothing to do with my orientation. I have always had very very long straight hair, ad as it's so fine it was also very flat. I wanted to do something totally different and new with my unchanged, long, flat hair, so I cut it short and spiked it all up. It suits me! Now, I'm growing it to about chin length Can't make up my mind!

I also own some skinny jeans and a checked shirt, but I love all clothing styles and I'm more likely to wear a dress and high heels than I am to dress in a "boyish" way. Even though I did try to got into some of the things the people at that school did, I still felt really out of place. It just wasn't me! I don't know why those people all gave up their individuality to follow these stereotypes. It is insecurity? Did they have to do that to be accepted by society in general? It's true they are all far more popular than me. Maybe if you dont follow the stereotype people think is true, you will be less accepted because they dont know how to deal with you when you arent a paper cut-out person?

Or...perhaps that stereotype is, even to some extent, true. Scientific research has shown that the brain structure of some gay males is reminiscent of that of a women. So does that explain the feminine "gayboys"? It's vice versa with some gay women, so does that explain some butch lesbians?

I don't know. But thats my two cents, in an EPIC POST. If you've got this far without your eyes bleeding, then well done! But I'm happy dressing and looking the way I am, and I guess people just have to deal with it! And you also have a easy reference guide for the Milton Keynes teenage gay community, should it ever come in handy. What are the stereotypes in your area?

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Someone told me the other day that they wondered if I was gay but that they figured I was "too pretty to be a lesbian." This was her idea of a flattering pick-up line I...think. My mouth hung open.

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Someone at work told me something similar--I don't look gay, but others at work picked up on me fast without me even saying a word (that kind of flipped my mind ) but appearence has nothing to do with it. I cut my hair short because it looks better that way... I've had my hair cut short since I was 15 (I wasn't "out" until I was 19--so it wasn't a statement of any sort)

I cut my hair short around the time I hit puberty because my old hair was too greasy and gross. I instantly fell in love with the low maintenance, the exotic difference, the way it suited my face, and the stereo typical 'chic' feel you get from a short cut. At the same time puberty was affecting my sex drive as well as my oil glands, so the two sort of came into my life at the same time. I've kept a short cut since because it feels more practical, though, I'm bleaching and back combing now a days so it's much different from the trendy pixie cut that I got 6 years ago. Even though I have short hair I don't feel like I have stereotypical hair, I mean... when you think lesbian do you think dandelion? (which defines my hair quite nicely, I think)

I was a good mix as for Grev's childhood question. I liked dresses, power rangers, barbies, batman, both princesses and prince as much, ballerinas, rodents, gargoyles... I didn't really like boy or girls stuff. I liked KID stuff. And I still like kid stuff, even more than when I was younger, plus now I think kitchen appliances are wicked righteous as well as that boring, ancient literature poetry stuff, so maybe I am getting older.